There are people out there who are willing to sacrifice pretty much anything—their pride, their self-respect, their reputation—for the sake of a good joke. They’re the everyday self-deprecating heroes of the internet who keep us chuckling even when the skies are grey and the chips are down.

That’s where the ‘Kamikaze By Words’ subreddit comes in. It’s a 433,000-member-strong online community that celebrates social media users who insult themselves in order to insult someone else. Someone who usually deserves it. Or, to put it more poetically, it’s “taking down the ship” in order to sink the captain.

The sub has been making people laugh since 2018, and it has collected some truly amazing posts in its 4-year tenure. What started out as an inside joke between friends eventually blossomed into a large community. We’re featuring the best of the best posts, all for the sake of your entertainment, dear Pandas. Scroll down to check them out and remember to upvote your fave ones. Got any similar stories to tell? You can share ‘em in the comments.

Meanwhile, Fashion Life got in touch with the mod team running ‘Kamikaze By Words’, as well as with comedy writer and aspiring pop-star Ariane Sherine to have a chat about self-deprecating humor. You’ll find both interviews below.

#1

Rumor Kamikaze

Rumor Kamikaze

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Caro Caro
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4 months ago

Haaahaha Brilliant.

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Research shows that one way to spot a self-aware leader with high emotional intelligence is to see if they make self-deprecating jokes. This type of humor indicates that they’re aware of their flaws and can talk about them with a laugh and a smile. However, at the same time, self-deprecation can be taken too far. For instance, if it becomes a reflex and if you actually start believing in the punchlines, it’s time to self-reflect and switch tracks.

The lead moderator running ‘Kamikaze By Words’ shared with Fashion Life that the subreddit “didn't actually start as a self-deprecating r/suicidebywords derivative.” They revealed that “it was initially set up as an inside joke between my friends and me about people essentially ‘canceling’ themselves.”

#2

Failure Contest

Failure Contest

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Cecily Holland
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4 months ago

Hahahahahahahahahahaha

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#3

Internet Parents Who Quote Things That Their Kids Didn’t Say

Internet Parents Who Quote Things That Their Kids Didn’t Say

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Lara Verne
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4 months ago

My cat agrees.

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The group of friends started talking about ‘Kamikaze’ out of their general interest in Japanese culture and customs. “There's even an unofficial KamikazeByWords Discord that's honestly just a bunch of people watching anime and unsubtitled Japanese dramas. Bit of a mystery that one, but I guess the Japanese themes stuck around with the core members,” they noted the strong link to Japanese culture.

#4

2 For The Price Of 1

2 For The Price Of 1

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Caro Caro
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4 months ago

LOL. Just so friggin good. I love this come back!

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#5

British Kamikazebywords

British Kamikazebywords

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El muerto
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4 months ago

Gandhi agrees from the grave...he would have found Brexit most interesting...so you want to brake free from an domineering power? go figure

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#6

Well That Took A Turn

Well That Took A Turn

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Caro Caro
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4 months ago

Haaahaha PERFECT.

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The lead mod of r/KamikazeByWords told Fashion Life about their friend who everyone calls ‘Wide Dangelo.’ “He's not actually overweight or anything, he just has the tendency to walk really broadly. The shoulders of that small man are an awesome sight to behold honestly. From every person I've ever met, every single person in our circle, not one man stands with more confidence, cracking self-deprecating jokes one after another,” they shared.

“But he stands, he makes fun of how he stands, but he stands broadly and proudly. And honestly, I think the world needs to know of people like him; whilst making fun of his own little quirks he stands there, widely. Absolutely legend,” the moderator told Fashion Life that self-deprecating humor has to be balanced out with pure, undiluted confidence.

#7

Everyone Sadly Laughing

Everyone Sadly Laughing

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Serial pacifist
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4 months ago

A slap for me and a slap for you

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#8

Hope This Counts

Hope This Counts

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Buren
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4 months ago

I bet the Taco didn't see that coming

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#9

Pharmacy And Gym

Pharmacy And Gym

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Mad Dragon
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4 months ago

“We’re”

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Comedy expert Ariane, who lives and works in London, was kind enough to share her opinion on self-deprecating jokes, the type of humor that ‘Kamikaze By Words’ lives and breathes. Fashion Life was curious to get her take on where the line lies between just enough self-deprecation and way too much of it.

“I guess you draw the line if you start actually believing your words and feeling bad about yourself! Self-deprecation in the name of comedy is great, but self-talk is a powerful thing and putting yourself down all the time may have an effect on your self-esteem. I think it’s fine as long as it’s clearly a joke,” she explained to Fashion Life.

#10

Sucks To Suck Am I Right?

Sucks To Suck Am I Right?

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Buren
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4 months ago

I am unique just like everyone else

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#11

Oh Niles, Never Change

Oh Niles, Never Change

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Lily Mae Kitty
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4 months ago

Niles was the best part of the show.

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#12

Did Her Dirty

Did Her Dirty

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El muerto
Community Member
4 months ago

honestly I didn't gett it either at first...sliding fast on the left side of the curve

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According to Ariane, we could all do with a laugh and should take ourselves less seriously. That means being able to poke fun at ourselves. 

“I think being able to laugh at ourselves and our flaws is generally a positive thing. Barack Obama used to do it all the time and it was charming and disarming. However, it’s when you stop laughing at yourself and start berating yourself that it’s time to stop,” she told Fashion Life that we have to be honest with ourselves if we’re criticizing ourselves or still focusing on the humor, as we should.

#13

Does This Count?

Does This Count?

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Steffen Rehm
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4 months ago

That´s harsh, i love it!

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#14

Why Else, Would She?

Why Else, Would She?

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Rijkærd
Community Member
4 months ago

This one has me banging my arm on an imaginary table ....kaboom!

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#15

These Flat Earthers

These Flat Earthers

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KJ
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4 months ago

She isn't the sharpest knife in the rack, however we already knew that by the first tweet.

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Ariane also revealed to Fashion Life some standup comedy secrets. “In standup, you can either be high-level (superior to the audience) or low-level (inferior). Both can work really well,” she said.

“My first joke, back in 2003, was ‘I’m half-Iranian, half-American—so basically, I hate myself.’ I followed it up with, ‘I hate myself so much, I put anthrax in my self-addressed envelopes.’ The thing with standup is that even if you’re being down on yourself and self-deprecating, you also have to be really confident,” she pointed out the paradox. “The audience will sense if you don’t have faith in your jokes and will be less willing to laugh at them—they might even turn on you.”

#16

It Do Be Like That

It Do Be Like That

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TrickQuestion
Community Member
4 months ago

I blame Koalas.

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#17

4chan User With The Kamikaze

4chan User With The Kamikaze

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rspanther
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4 months ago

Sounds right.

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#18

Gamer Martyrdom

Gamer Martyrdom

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Laura Mende (Human)
Community Member
4 months ago

BAHAHAAHA!!!!!

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The head mod of r/KamikazeByWords had this to add about internet culture as it stands in 2021 and 2022. “Not many people talk about this, but I feel like we have to accept that in 2021 ‘jannie’ (as in ‘internet janitor’) has become a slur. Just look at the people that use it and you immediately notice anything from racism to transphobia. Especially the latter, since a lot of Reddit's best moderators are trans themselves, and ‘jannie’ has almost trans-hate in and of itself.”

#19

At A Climate Change Protest In Australia

At A Climate Change Protest In Australia

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Sue Lynn Chan
Community Member
4 months ago

Ouch. Don’t do that to me

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#20

As A Tall Guy Whooo That One Even Hurt Me

As A Tall Guy Whooo That One Even Hurt Me

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Auntriarch
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4 months ago

Writes down in back of diary for future reference....

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#21

I’ve Never Been So Offended By Something I 100% Agree With

I’ve Never Been So Offended By Something I 100% Agree With

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Phonax
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

you just insulted my entire race of people but yes

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If you’re planning on joining the ‘Kamikaze By Words’ community and sharing some posts, make sure that they actually “contain a Kamikaze.” In other words, the mods point out that the insult has to have “a clear secondary target.” What’s more, the insult actually has to affect both the secondary target and the person who’s doing the insulting in the first place.

The jokes also can’t be low-quality junk. And you should steer clear of controversial posts that delve into politics or religion. The sub might be all about insults, but everyone still has to be civil!

#22

An Accidental One At Best

An Accidental One At Best

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Laura Mende (Human)
Community Member
4 months ago

I love these guys!!! Their videos are just hilarious! And the thing with classical musicians being depressed... I learned piano, "just for fun". Wasn't fun. I'm depressed. THANK YOU PIANO!!!

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#23

Could Be Any One Of Us

Could Be Any One Of Us

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Kay blue
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4 months ago

That penguin is my spirit animal.

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#24

Ah Yes, *t Poses*

Ah Yes, *t Poses*

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Monday
Community Member
4 months ago

Don't worry, the people on instragram are just fellow trash bretheren in denial. They'll come around eventually.

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#25

That Hurt

That Hurt

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Mistralok
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4 months ago

You go girl!

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#26

Ruining Your Reputation To Win A Lawsuit

Ruining Your Reputation To Win A Lawsuit

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Rissie
Community Member
4 months ago

It's easier than explaining how the prices of canning laves no room for mice to get in. It's fast... So. Good thinking.

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#27

Interesting.. Saw On Fb

Interesting.. Saw On Fb

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Cactuar Jon
Community Member
4 months ago

Unless it's one of those guys that seriously can't take the hint. They're out there, we've all experienced them.

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#28

Dafuq Dey Doin Ova Dere

Dafuq Dey Doin Ova Dere

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El muerto
Community Member
4 months ago

they used to say "children are the future" I guess, the future was f****d from day one

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#29

Dundundunduuunnnnn

Dundundunduuunnnnn

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rspanther
Community Member
4 months ago

With all the people on reddit the odds are that at least one person has had sex, besides with themselves.

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#30

He Said It Not Me...

He Said It Not Me...

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Who Panda 420
Community Member
4 months ago

I'd give him some bucks just for the giggle

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#31

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Slick
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4 months ago

He live up to his username. Respect !

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#32

He Took Dogecoin Down With Him

He Took Dogecoin Down With Him

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Cecily Holland
Community Member
4 months ago

Love the honesty

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#33

Hopefully I Got It First Lol, But I Saw This In A Massive Brits vs. Americans Thread

Hopefully I Got It First Lol, But I Saw This In A Massive Brits vs. Americans Thread

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Monday
Community Member
4 months ago

I would rather engage with the anime pfp than the football pfp, but that's not a commentary on intelligence. I'm just a weeb.

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#34

Taking Both Dads Down At Once, Originally Seen On R/Clevercomebacks

Taking Both Dads Down At Once, Originally Seen On R/Clevercomebacks

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Daniel Mattock
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4 months ago

Ooof.

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#35

Nobody Loves Me...

Nobody Loves Me...

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Nicola Roberts
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4 months ago

I would suggest Nobody, that you test your sense of humour in a non-live situation first.

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#36

High Standards

High Standards

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Marcellus II
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4 months ago

That's the Groucho Club Principle.

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#37

I Think This Belongs Here

I Think This Belongs Here

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Caro Caro
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4 months ago

Dingus :D

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#38

Truly Unfortunate Choice Of Words

Truly Unfortunate Choice Of Words

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Luna
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4 months ago

I mean, all of her exes are evil…

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#39

Tinder

Tinder

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Joonscrab
Community Member
4 months ago

People need to comment more on her irony than her spelling. Everyone uses slang these days, just get over it. Seriously.

King Kashue
Community Member
4 months ago

Bunch o people wad read this an think "poor fellow has na idea hou tae spell." Gin it has consistent rules o usage, thon's no slang, thon's a dialect.

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Khavrinen
Community Member
3 months ago

I am ugly, but putting my height in my bio would make women even less likely to date me. If, that is, such a thing as "less likely to date me" were mathematically possible. ( 5'5" )

Lemonclouds20
Community Member
4 months ago

I think it's a joke

Kai David
Community Member
4 months ago

It's not slang. It's pure lazineß and ignorance.

Mindghost
Community Member
4 months ago

Her height is not high :)

Andy Hinds
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4 months ago

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With poor spelling like that she's a no-chance straight away.

WilvanderHeijden
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4 months ago

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If you're a student at Arizona State University and still don't know how to spell you don't have the time to be on Tinder.

Lily Mae Kitty
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4 months ago

b/c she used slang??? argh. nothing is misspelled. it's just slang.

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#40

Woaw That Hurts

Woaw That Hurts

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John L
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4 months ago

Naruto Run!!!!

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