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10 months ago by Kotryna Brašiškytė
I never understood why looking at people who are more successful/better looking that you would be depressing.
Good for them, why would it affect me? it's nothing to do with me. Unless they are very bad people. Bad people doing well can be depressing.
Have you ever had self-doubt issues?
Sure - self loathing, self doubt, all the negative selfisms, but those have never been affected by how other people are doing. I guess I judge myself on an "objective" scale and not in comparison to others. I don't do envy - not an enlightened choice or anything, just not in my DNA
Must be nice. Envy is nature's way of making you want to succeed & do better. It suck when it takes over but I think it's necessary to evolve & improve. Just my opinion
I think I'm lazy then if that's the case. Destined to not do better. 🙂
No.Envy makes me stuck and cycling. The joy pushs me forward. I feel inspired by succesful people and see I can learn from them.
I always wanted to be successful for myself, for my present and future, never because I wanted to be better than others. So my opinion is, envy is not necessary for evolve & improve.
I'm a college lecturer - I've done fine without envy ;)
Must be nice.
May, I don't do envy either. I felt it once very briefly (about someone's cool job) and it was really interesting but it faded in seconds and I never got it again. I think my brain doesn't know how to produce it.
I have...... well I think I have...... I dunno
Good for you! But people have insecurities, and pressure from parents, s/o, peers just even themselves tbh. Seeing someone else lead the life you want is not a happy thing for a lot of people, especially if they aren't leading a good life in the first place.
Because it reminds you that happiness exists, that other people who don't particularly deserve it more than you got it, but you don't, because life sucks.
It's human nature it makes you think what I did wrong even if it's a whisper in the back of your mind
What planet are you from?
One where I'm missing some apparently basic human emotions. I'm asexual, so maybe the envy gene went missing along with the 'urge to reproduce' gene. Also not competitive at all
I think it may be less envy and more a societal stigma around reaching milestones around a certain age or at least with your peer group - as well as not wanting to be the "worst" in a given category out of everyone. Which, honestly, is a whole lot of BS, but ingrained thought patterns take time to change. It's probably lucky you managed to escape learning that way of thinking. (Also I have a partial urge to reproduce gene, but part of it has a mutation that turned that part into a liking dragon gene xD)
Maybe it's our wiring. I'm not asexual but I've never been envious or jealous but I'm not very emotive either. Maybe there is something in that
Well.. must be nice. :)
Envy is as old as time. You don't understand the concept of envy?
Not really no - I'm aware of it, but I don't think I have the gene for it
I get it--If you are content in yourself then why envy others? I find I dont experience jealousy unless I am dissatisfied with my life at the time. Mostly I just dont have the interest ir energy for it. Why not use the energy to go for our own happiness? 🤔
You don't compare yourself with others either..?
Cat Crazy Lady and May, I don't experience envy either, and yes, I don't feel the need to compare to others. I don't compare other people with each other either, and I don't seem able to understand stereotyping. As in the differences between people of the same group are very obvious to me but I'm not very perceptive to the pattern that gives rise to stereotypes. I think it's something to do with processing of social emotions specifically.
Nope - don't see the point.
teach me the ways
Reminds me of a math teacher I knew who had a way of teaching multiplication of integers that made sense. When good things happen to good people, that's a good thing. (+X+=+). When bad things happen to bad people, that's a good thing. (-X-=+). When bad thing happen to good people, that's a bad thing. (-X+=-). When good things happen to bad people, that's a bad thing. (+X-=-)
I never understand why people respond to this with inability to understand... How is it a foreign concept to compare ourselves to others? It can motivate us to do better and be our best selves if we use that motivation properly and it seems normal. I don't like the judgement that it's abnormal to experience that.
No one is saying it's abnormal to compare. You're saying other people are abnormal for not comparing, so check your double standards.
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This just sounds like someone desperately rationalizing.
And that's why it's a meme. You are not supposed to take it too seriously.
I found a guy on facebook who I knew had gone to jail for ten years for murder and he was out acting like "Dont judge me" we all knew the f****d up thing he did at 18
Unpopular opinion- quit social media.... Improved my self opinion greatly not trying to compare myself with others. I did it because I was being stalked I stayed away because my life felt so much easier without it. I have mental health issues so that might have something to do with it
Would downvote 335566234568854676 times if possible
Good for you
This is social media too but I get your point. I do it too from time to time when I feel like it gets too much.
I only consider it social media when the whole point of it is to share your entire life, not commenting on a list of meme like lists.
I honestly found it incredibly boring so never got into it
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Narrator: Kimi said on social media....
To compare BP to social media is like comparing a composite site to a site to social media.... And much easier to ignore.
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